Elliot Talenfeld

“Every genuinely loving relationship is one of mutual psychotherapy.” So wrote M. Scott Peck in "The Road Less Traveled." I knew Scotty, and he included our 10-yr. correspondence in his final papers. I now teach couples how to become their OWN mutual therapists. Most of us have scars from our childhood or past relationships that deter us from opening our hearts even to those we claim to love. Many couples thus enter into a tacit agreement not to rock the relational boat. But I see relational tension as a thrust for both personal authenticity AND intimacy. A blessing, not a curse, it is the very coin of the mutual-therapeutic realm. It can be years into a relationship (e.g., after one spouse has gotten into individual therapy) before the relationship becomes the focus. But, our personal (individual) growth and domestic tranquility need not be at cross-purposes. In all of my counseling work, I strive for a holistic synergy between my clients’ individual and relational aspirations. Before training as a counselor, I spent 25 years as a litigator, law professor and judge. So I know how professional personas can condition us to avoid all appearance of vulnerability. My goal today is not to help my clients win their cases, but to get over them; to become more self-aware; for a more intimate relationship with their life partners. Credentials & Experience: Author, "Through A Still Imperfect Lens, a true story of Personal Growth and Relationship from a Psychospiritual Perspective."

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