Comfort With Singlehood Test
My social life feels complete and fulfilling regardless of whether I'm dating someone.
Being in control of my own choices without needing to answer to anyone else matters a lot to me.
When I see friends get married, I feel genuinely happy for them rather than jealous.
I enjoy tackling difficult tasks independently without relying on others.
Spending time by myself makes me feel uneasy.
I'd rather not have the responsibility of looking after another person or their emotional well-being.
In past relationships, I often felt like something was missing.
I appreciate having the freedom to create the life I envision and adjust it whenever I choose.
Having the liberty to explore sexual connections with different people is something I value.
Being able to spend my time exactly how I wish is important to me.
I don't want the burden of caring for someone else or handling their issues.
How I feel about myself doesn't change based on my relationship status.
My relationships with friends and family provide me with deep satisfaction.
Personal freedom ranks high among my priorities.
I don't dread alone time. In fact, I really enjoy it.
Sometimes I get anxious thinking I might never find a long-term partner.
I like being able to eat whatever I want without considering someone else's opinions or tastes.
Listening to friends talk about their relationships doesn't make me feel like I'm lacking something.
For me, keeping my life stable and calm is more important than actively looking for a partner.
When it comes to big life choices, I prefer to make them independently.
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Things to Know
- According to an analysis of U.S. Census data by the Pew Research Center, about 42% of American adults were single in 2023, meaning they were not married or living with a partner. That number is down from a high of 44 percent in 2019, mostly because fewer people are getting divorced.
- Women are generally happier being single than men are. Studies have shown that single women who have been single for a long time are happier with their lives, relationships, and sex lives than men who are single for the same amount of time. Researchers say that one of the main reasons might be that single women are better at making friends and family who can help them than single men are.
- Long-term "involuntary" singles-those who would rather be in a relationship-are more picky, less able to flirt, more neurotic, less agreeable, and less likely to think they are a good match for someone else.
- A little more than half of all adult singles say they don't want to be in a romantic relationship when asked.
- A study of singles and couples from around the world found that people who were happily in a relationship were happier with their lives than people who chose to stay single. However, people who were unhappily in a relationship were less happy than people who were single but wanted to be.
Take It Up a Notch
- Look inside: The biggest downside of being single is how it can hurt your self-esteem. A lot of that comes from stereotypes and cultural pressures. Ignoring that could change how you see things.
- Give it time. Being single longer than you planned can be stressful, but it's important to remember that it's not uncommon to find a partner later in life. Research also shows that being single is usually better than being in a bad relationship.
- Think about going to therapy. If your relationship problems are making you feel bad overall, talking to a professional could help.
