Relationship Attachment Test
I make an effort to resolve conflicts and challenges in my relationships.
I enjoy expressing my feelings of affection toward others.
I feel emotionally connected and intimate in my close relationships.
I am able to share my feelings openly with others.
I feel that my partner genuinely values and supports me.
I have meaningful and stable connections with people in my life.
Others sometimes describe me as emotionally reserved or detached.
I find it easy to be vulnerable and share my thoughts with my partner.
I feel content and at ease when I spend time by myself.
I tend to avoid getting too deeply involved in committed relationships.
I can clearly communicate what I need from others in my relationships.
I often hide my true feelings and insecurities from people around me.
People have noticed that I tend to break off romantic relationships quickly.
I don't feel intimidated or overwhelmed by deep, intimate connections.
I frequently desire more personal space and independence in my relationships.
I feel secure relying on my partner for support and companionship.
I usually don't worry or feel anxious about how my romantic relationships are going.
I am confident that my partner has deep feelings of love for me.
Past partners have mentioned that I seem emotionally distant or guarded.
I can become anxious or uneasy when my partner isn't around or accessible to me.
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What you need to know
- A person who is securely attached feels loved, valued, understood, accepted, and happy with the love and support they get, especially from their partner.
- People with a dismissive-avoidant style push aside their attachment needs to keep their emotions at a distance. But this kind of person also has no trouble getting into relationships.
- Someone with a dismissive-avoidant style may also feel trapped and claustrophobic when people want to get close to them.
- Some people feel like they don't deserve love and are afraid of being left alone. They may also feel distrustful and anxious in relationships. This is called an anxious-avoidant style.
- Some people who are insecurely attached want to be close to others and far away from them at the same time. They desire intimacy, yet harbour apprehension. People have called this a fearful-avoidant style.
Do Something Now
- Know yourself: Being self-aware is important for having good relationships. It can be helpful to know exactly what your attachment style is.
- Cognitive reappraisal: Learning to look at a situation and understand how it is affecting you can help you become more self-aware.
- Talk to a therapist. A therapist can help you feel more secure and confident in your relationships.
