Narcissistic Partner Test
My partner becomes upset if I don't agree with their preferences.
In social situations, my partner acts like they deserve preferential treatment from everyone.
They frequently express frustration that their abilities aren't getting the recognition they merit.
My partner enjoys letting others have their moment in the spotlight too.
I sense that my partner's emotions always come before my own.
I feel confident turning to my partner for comfort and understanding.
My partner consistently blames me for any issues that arise between us.
My partner appears to take pleasure in seeing other people struggle or fail.
Even gentle feedback makes my partner react with anger or defensiveness.
My partner shows little concern when I'm feeling down or distressed.
My partner avoids admitting fault when something doesn't work out.
I constantly worry that I don't measure up to my partner's standards.
My partner regularly voices that they aren't receiving the respect they feel entitled to.
The idea of being well-known would make my partner uneasy.
They think only exceptional individuals can truly connect with them.
My partner withdraws or pouts when they believe I'm not focusing enough on them.
I've noticed my partner influences people strategically to achieve their goals.
They behave as though regular guidelines don't concern them.
When I accomplish something significant, my partner feels envious.
My partner can turn on remarkable charm whenever it suits their purposes.
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What you should know
- Narcissism is a personality trait that exists on a continuum. A person with a lot of narcissism may have narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), which is a serious mental illness that affects 1 to 5 percent of people.
- More and more people are calling someone a "narcissist" when they act selfishly. Most people are selfish at times, but only a small number of people could really be called narcissists.
- Narcissism exhibits similarities with other maladaptive traits, particularly psychopathy and Machiavellianism, which constitute the “Dark Triad.” For instance, a person who doesn't care about other people may have a lot of narcissism or psychopathy (or both).
- Having a little more narcissism may not be a bad thing. In fact, studies have shown that it is linked to being more assertive and doing better at work or school.
- But too much narcissism can be bad for both the person and the people around them. People with NPD are more likely to abuse drugs and alcohol, and they have a hard time keeping any kind of close, healthy relationship.
- Couples therapy may not work if one partner has NPD. Individual therapy, on the other hand, may help the other person understand their partner's behaviour and, if necessary, safely end the relationship.
Change Now
Practice empathy. Even if it doesn't seem like it, try to remember that your partner's need for praise could be a sign of their own insecurities.
Talk about your worries: If your partner's selfish actions are hurting you, let them know. You can use their response to help you decide if the relationship should go on.
Think about going to therapy. Couples therapy or individual therapy could help you understand your partner's actions and find better ways to deal with them.
