Authoritative Parenting Test
When my child throws a tantrum, I typically give in to their demands.
I don't let my child cut me off while I'm talking.
My child doesn't receive everything they request.
I'm sure of myself when it comes to establishing guidelines for my child.
Kids deserve recognition only when they've truly tried their hardest.
My children have specific restrictions on how much screen time they get.
I expect my child to voice any concerns they have about the rules I set.
I'm familiar with the majority of my child's friends.
I make sure my kids understand the reasons behind our family rules.
I believe my child can make good decisions on their own.
I have no problem refusing my child's requests.
If I warn my child about a punishment, I always carry it out.
I refuse to offer rewards just to make my child comply.
Establishing clear limits with children is crucial.
My child's constant happiness isn't the top priority.
My role is to parent my child, not to be their buddy.
I support my child in sharing their opinions, even when they differ from mine.
I discuss with my child what might happen as a result of their behavior.
I'm concerned that disciplining my child too harshly could damage our relationship.
I value teaching my child to become self-reliant.
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What you should know
You can't blame all of your problems on your parents, but the way they raise you can affect how you deal with problems and relationships later in life.
- Kids who grow up with strict parents tend to do better in school, have better self-control and emotional stability, and use drugs and alcohol less often.
- Authoritative parenting means explaining your choices and discipline, having expectations that are right for your child's age, and being open to what your child thinks even when you make the final choice.
- Authoritarian parents, on the other hand, may be very strict and put more value on keeping control and authority than on helping kids learn how to do the right thing on their own.
- Permissive parents may care more about being liked by their kids and being seen as a friend than about setting limits that will help their kids in the long run.
- Studies show that kids who are neglected too much often behave badly, but kids who are too involved in their parents' lives may also behave badly.
Change Now
- Find a balance: Parents can discipline their kids without making them feel like they are being punished if they stay calm, explain the rules, and give them more freedom over time.
- Don't be too hard on yourself. Being a parent will have its ups and downs. Being consistent, open, and caring can help you stay connected.
- Talk to a mental health professional: A therapist can help you change how you parent or talk to you and/or your kids about the things that are stressing your family out.
